Why the Holidays Feel So Overwhelming (and How to Cope)

Holidays are often filled with spending time with family, relaxation, giving and receiving gifts, and celebration. So why do so many people feel an increase in stress around this time of year? 

Financial Burdens

There can be immense pressure to give gifts to everybody, to travel to see family, and to host a buffet, all of which take time and money. It can be tough to budget for the holidays while trying to uphold perceived responsibilities. It’s okay to suggest a secret-santa-style gift exchange rather than buying ten separate presents, or make time to video chat rather than travel if it’s not in the cards this year. Potlucks can also take away much of the financial burden on one person. 

Boundaries Are Crossed

Seeing family is important but, there tends to be those one or two relatives who just don’t quite understand boundaries. Whether it’s for you, your children, or others, upholding preset boundaries (or setting new ones) can be emotionally draining. To learn more about how to say “no,” see our post on boundaries here.

Food Stress

For those who have struggled with eating disorders in the past, the holidays can be a tumultuous time. Pressure to eat certain amounts or foods, comments on weight, and being surrounded by others eating can all be triggering events. For help reducing the impact of these triggers, make an appointment to talk to one of our counsellors here. 

Too much on the go

Being busy isn’t an inherently bad thing. But, when the schedule becomes too tightly packed, especially for working parents or burnt out individuals, meeting all commitments can feel more stressful than fun. Remember that it’s okay to say no, and to try to add in time for rest. Ask for help with planning events (from your spouse, friend, or family) if needed. 

Loneliness 

For many reasons, the holidays can also feel lonely. Whether you’re away from family for school, work, or personal reasons, negative feelings can set in. This is a good time to set goals for yourself, work on a project, catch up on hobbies and generally keep yourself busy. 

Change in Routine 

Some people welcome a change in routine – others find anxiety within it. Sleeping, eating and movement habits can all be disrupted. If you find this stressing you out, aim to keep some smaller habits for a sense of normalcy (getting some daily movement, showering in the morning, setting an alarm to be up around when you usually would). Not everything has to be maintained, but a few small routines can help to feel better. 

Remember, many people feel overwhelmed this time of year. You are not alone, and these feelings are valid.